So earlier this week I had a man who lives in my building approach me. I was on my way to a doctor’s appointment so of course in a rush as always. He says Hello, and asks how I am. I say “I’m Good thank you, how about yourself?”. Instead of answering, he abruptly says to me “Why are you so skinny? Do you eat?” I’m always taken aback when I get this question. It is so incredibly invasive and personal. And I always wonder what sort of response someone is expecting from a question like that.
I’m constantly seeing “Fat Shaming” but I have to say… “Skinny Shaming” is just as real and prominent. In some cases, I feel like “Skinny” sized is worse in a way. Most people with a brain, and a heart won’t come right out and ask someone who is overweight “Do you over eat?” or “Do you have a medical issue that is affecting your weight?” — However, smaller people get asked some of the most invasive and hurtful things. I think it is especially hard because A) I do NOT have an eating disorder. But yet my whole life, it has been mentioned no matter how much I eat, or tell people food is NOT my issue. When dealing with inflammation and auto immune conditions, everyones body is different. This particular day I was feeling extremely run down, and had 3 doctors appointments so I was not really in the mood to give someone my thoughts on their opinion of my body size.
Guess what? As Roxy Earle says.. #MySizeRox - This campaign that Roxy has created with Le Chateau is beyond amazing and I love everything that she is encompassing. She is creating clothing for women of all sizes and I have so much respect for that. Everyone is beautiful, sexy, and wonderful in their own way. I can't wait to order some of her pieces because they are really changing the lives of many women and changing the game. Size Shaming is no more thanks to Roxy.
While I wish I could be a bit more muscular, and about 10 pounds heavier, I’m not. It probably won’t happen unless I get on a feeding tube, and that is the harsh reality. So instead, I try and embrace my size. I can fit in small spaces, my hands can pick up almost anything, and I can at times, buy teen clothes (hello money savings!). So it has its perks.
I just wish the stigma surround ANY Size went away. People really don’t consider how hurtful their words can be, and lately I have been struggling with everything overall with my health, so to have a stranger assume I don’t eat, and ask in such a rhetorical way; was overwhelming. What would they say if I told them Yes I do have an eating disorder. I’m certain they would have no response.
So bottom line is- just because someone is “skinny” (in your eyes) it doesn’t mean you need to comment on it. I promise if someone wants to bring it to your attention they will. Have kindness, have heart, and put yourself in someone else’s shoes. I politely told this man that I had was on my way to some doctors appointments and I appreciated his concern but I am working on my weight but I am as healthy as I can be, with no eating disorders. Kill ‘em with Kindness my friends..